Gleanings of Wisdom on Unschooling

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Mind you, I'm not totally against workbooks -- I just would never, ever, want to limit my children's education to filling in someone else's blanks.
--Patty (NorskMama@aol.com)


This is a very simple quote, but for some reason, I always say it to myself:

"When YOU ask the questions, teaching is going on. When the CHILD asks the questions, learning is going on."
To me, unschooling does not necessarily mean there is no plan, it just means that God is the architect of that plan, not me. I trust in Him to guide their steps. The children are the builders and the inhabitants of what they construct, and I just supply the tools and the equipment.
--Laura (loudpraise@aol.com)


One way to look at unschooling is to live your life in your home and day-to-day adventures without adding a "School in Your Home". Don't play teacher, don't tell your child what to learn based on a teacher's manual. Instead, recognize that children are learning as they are breathing in air. Relax and realize that your eight year old IS learning about all sorts of things that COULD be classified as science, math, english, etc. Is he/she helping you at the grocery store? Lots of math skills there - estimating, comparing, rounding off, adding, subtracting, multiplication/division. Cooking with you - both science and math are covered. Gardening is science. Observing a spider's web, drawing pictures, making maps for a treasure hunt for the younger ones, reading books from the library and talking about them, listening to tapes, watching videos, learning to use the camera, building a treefort, starting a compost pile and/or worm bin - there's a million and more things to do that are educational and part of daily life. Sometimes unschoolers use workbooks and textbooks - if they are a help and useful for the subject or topic at hand. But younger children, by and large, don't need texts and workbooks and mom pretending to be a teacher with a globe and a pointer (unless you all are having a fun time playing pretend!).
--Karen (Laslzm@aol.com)


<<how do you know from year to year where they need to be...or is this another "delusion" of public school?>>

I have believed for a while now that the *only* reason there are "standards" of what children should know when is what boils down to crowd control. A mass education system cannot possibly deal with children who are allowed to grow and learn at their own pace, so they need some kind of uniform curriculum. *We*, on the other hand, are specially designed to meet our individual child's needs. :-)

One other note: have you ever noticed how much *repetition* there is in curriculum in areas like math and English?? If we just wait until our child is ready to learn something before pushing it on him, then they "get it" much more quickly.
-- Patti (Lvmy4@aol.com)


>I have believed for a while now that the *only* reason there are "standards"
>of what children should know when is what boils down to crowd control.

Oh, yes, I agree. Crowd control is a big part of it. But also--think about it--all children of the same grade who live in various parts of the country are NOT learning the same things! There is really no *uniform* curriculum even within the ps system itself, so don't let it scare you! There is no *Magic Curriculum*!!!
-- Patty (NorskMama@aol.com)


>On the days that I have energy and low pain levels, I am so much happier with
>my kids!

We have lots of "down days" lately too. I have a new baby and it's hard to find the time and energy. I think that's okay though. Life is like that. Cycles and seasons. I think that even when kids aren't actively learning something new, though, the down time is letting some of the old stuff sink in. So give yourself and your family permission to just hang out without guilt now and then.
-- Jennifer (Jenygain@aol.com)


I think "unschooling" is a rather peculiar word, because it implies that we don't use school-type methods, but it doesn't really say what we do. Even though we don't use *schoolish* methods, does that mean we never *teach* our children anything? Of course not. Parents are teachers from the time their children are born -- even before!
My children ask me endless questions, and I either answer them, or we find out together, or I direct the child to the place where the answer can be found.
...The difference between teaching when a child is ready and eager and teaching a structured curriculum to a large group according to the curriculum's timetable is immense. It doesn't mean we never teach; we just take our cues from the child and not a set-in-stone lesson plan.
-- Patty (NorskMama@aol.com)


<<But the fact of the matter is, most hs kids test well above average>>

<sigh>  I think that the whole system is missing the point (at least my point). I am not here to raise a group of rocket scientists to make the homeschooling community look good (or to make ps look bad, for that matter). I am here to raise children who have good values and good character. THAT is my priority. I think sometimes people get too caught up in the testing aspect out of fear and forget the point. It saddens me to see so many people at the end of the "school year" fretting over testing or evaluations (not that I have been exempt). I am not saying that it is not important for our children to learn things other than good character, but it is my opinion that if I do my part in training them, God will help take care of the rest.

Blessings,
<><Tanya><> (SHELLGIRL1@aol.com)


> i keep hearing people say "but there are some
> things you just HAVE to do" or "of course there
> are things they arent interested in.. and dont
> wanna do but thats life"

This again, is the assumption that education is supposed to be unpleasant and something you DON'T want to do. So if your kids are enjoying it, you're doing it wrong???? Puhleeze. This is such a silly thing to say. It's hard not to laugh when they do. My kids don't want to obey me. But they have to. They want to have video games, but they aren't allowed. They would love to watch TV all day long. But there are limits. They want to buy all of the latest toys, but they have a limited allowance. Learning is so much fun.
Why do people want to make it unpleasant????
-- June (Drooga@aol.com)


When we started this "interest-initiated" learning about a year and a half ago, my then 8yo dd was reading the Addy American Girl books and started reading other books about the Underground Railroad, slavery, Harriet Tubman, Abraham Lincoln, etc. She was so excited, and it stuck with her. She did lots of "oral book reports", too. You know, "Mom, guess what I just read!!!"
Our son who was not quite twelve delved into various topics, such as the transcontinental railroad, steam engine trains, and various science topics. They loved learning this way so much that they would read their library books before breakfast! This was a switch--a very good switch!!! Don't we all want our kids to love learning and to have enthusiasm?

As for worrying that you will not be covering "everything", or doing things in a "certain order", phooey to that idea! Where is it written that things have to be learned in a certain order, and anyway, who in the world will learn everything??? Only God knows everything. Each of us will learn only a small subset of a subset of all available knowledge. Who's to say which subset is better than any other subset? I would much prefer my kids to love what they're learning, and remember it, than to follow someone else's scope and sequence and learn facts to pass a test. >choking sound<
We've been that route, and it's like pouring sand through a sieve.
-- Patty (NorskMama@aol.com)



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